“Why is Sex Such a Huge Deal For You Guys?”

The other day I listened to a podcast and the question came up to an evangelical from a mainstream Protestant and former Catholic. The question is why is sex such a huge deal for you guys? The question drew me back to my false accusation mess. I observed how a member of Jordan Kauflin or Eric Simmons Redeemer Arlington was so focused on avoiding sexual sin, but other situations such as the false accusation I endured were not sinful. The hyper focus on sexual sin makes evangelicalism toxic as people end up downplaying other sin. I hope this post makes sense as I have been working on it for a day now.  Continue reading

Learning to Hate Yourself. A Reflection on the Forever War Against Lust and Pornography Among Men in Evangelical Culture and the Destroyed Lives Left Behind

The New York Times has been writing about the profile of the Atlanta shooter and his “sexual addiction” battles against pornography and lust. Anyone who spent time in evangelicalism will identify with his purity battles that he dealt with.  In the “forever war” against pornography the battle with lust is long, exhausting and soul crushing.  Males inside evangelicalism realize that they often can’t win. And they are also caught in the dilemma of wanting to date but fearing of becoming sexually active while they do. Accountability is often a means of control and a weapon used by people in ministry. The culture against porn often uses fear and warns that if you look at pornography you too will become just like Ted Bundy and a serial killer hunting women down out of compulsion. Its known as the “forever war” and in evangelicalism it leads to PTSD, anxiety and other issues. Continue reading

Clint Clifton on the Church Planting Podcast Asks Jordan Kauflin What to Look For in a Worship Leader? Here’s a Hint How About One Who Does Not Enable or Tolerate Abuse?

On the Church Planting Podcast Clint Clifton had Jordan Kauflin on to discuss what should be looked for in a worship leader. The podcast had issues as it also showed how corrupt Jordan Kauflin had become in touting Sovereign Grace Ministries music. And this is on top of my spiritual abuse mess that will never be resolved. This troubled podcast also revealed another development. That is how much of a brownnoser Clint Clifton of the New City Network has become.  Continue reading

When Your Faith is a Lie, and You Were Conned. Another Component of Moore’s Leaving the Southern Baptists

There is a part of Beth Moore’s story that hit home with me. It deals with how Moore felt like her head was spinning when many Southern Baptists who criticized Bill Clinton then  both defended and embraced Donald Trump as his affairs and abuse came forward. For me the painful aspect of being thrust in such a crisis is when you realize that faith is a lie. And that is because of what occurs when those who taught you what faith is throw it all away to support someone of questionable character. Continue reading

#WonderingEagleEffect Introducing The Wondering Eagle Effect. How Has This Blog Influenced Policy?

This is a post that I have been avoiding for a while. After discussing this with others I have decided to write a post about how this blog has been effective. From the EFCA, to churches in the Washington, D.C. area and in the greater United States this is a look at how has this blog influenced churches and people. This blog is introducing a new description. Its called the #WonderingEagleEffect Continue reading

Jordan Kauflin Speaks of Worship While Ignoring the Issue of Spiritual Abuse

Recently at Christ Covenant Church in Atlanta, Georgia Jordan Kauflin discussed the issue of modern trends of worship and the issues with them. In the video Jordan Kauflin not talk about worship in the context of spiritual abuse. Its why this video is problematic and flawed and not to be taken seriously. A person who enabled spiritual abuse contributes to the problem when they fail to acknowledge their shortcomings. When they fail to rectify it it contributes to abuse. Its why videos like this are flawed. Continue reading

Jason Dees of Christ Covenant Church Has Tested Positive for COVID-19. Would a Coronavirus Outbreak in a 9 Marks Neo-Calvinist Church Show God’s Sovereignty at Work?

Jason Dees of 9 Marks Christ Covenant in Atlanta, Georgia, has tested positive for the coronavirus. Church is canceled tomorrow and this blog would like to pose a question. Would a COVID-19 pandemic in a Neo-Calvinist church be a sign of God’s sovereignty at work? In a system of theological determinism should Jason Dees accept God’s will for him even if he passes off the disease to others? Continue reading

Christ Covenant Church in Atlanta, Georgia Teaches on Worship. Its a Problematic Devotional with Jordan Kauflin Having Enabled Unresolved Spiritual Abuse

The other day Christ Covenant Church in Atlanta, Georgia sent out a devotion on what worship is. It is quite bad and in the context of my spiritual abuse situation from a person that Jordan Kauflin discipled that dragged on unresolved. This devotional misses one of the key teachings of Jesus when it comes to worship.  And as for the Sara Bareilles song, this blog suggests you don’t play the YouTube video when you are at work. Continue reading

Dealing With the Searing Pain of Unresolved Spiritual Abuse and the EFCA’s Dr. Cedrick Brown’s Encouraging Proposal on the Church Asking For Forgiveness From the World

This blog post is a response to the EFCA’s Eastern District co-superintendent Dr. Cedrick Brown who asked the question should the church ask the world to forgive them? This blog is impressed with the question and offers some feedback which comes from a person who learned why spiritual abuse is a problem. Its my hope that this discussion with start to happen more often.  Continue reading

Carolyn McCulley Boasts of How Redeemer Arlington is Doing Church in the COVID-19 Era, While Neglecting My Spiritual Abuse Mess From Redeemer

On Twitter Carolyn McCully boasts of how Redeemer Arlington is doing church during the COVID-19 era. Her boasts are problematic in light of the unresolved spiritual abuse situation that has adversely affected my family.  Either Carolyn is exhibiting cognitive dissonance or she doesn’t know her Bible. If so I can teach her a thing or two.  Continue reading