When Losing Your Faith and Becoming an Atheist Can Cost You Everything. Some Stories From Reddit of De-conversions in Evangelical or Fundamentalist Families

The other day I discovered a Reddit forum of former religious to include many evangelicals in their late teens or in college whose parents learned they they became an atheist. What happens next is heart breaking and hard to process. Stories of being disowned, even some violence and how some evangelicals and followers of Jesus act in fear toward their own flesh and blood.  Continue reading

Deconversion Story: Jake Sees the Light and Takes the Path From the Assemblies of God to Atheism

Jake told his story of his deconversion from Christianity into atheism on YouTube recently. Jake, who grew up in the Assemblies of God explained in a well done video why he moved on from religion. Its a story of honesty and integrity while facing the problems and contradictions of faith. For those who want to understand atheism better, this blog would encourage you to listen to Jake’s story.  Continue reading

Grieving the Death of Evangelical Faith and Realizing Its Cost and How Much of Your Life Was Wasted

There was a tweet by Adrian Gibbs recently that looks at how leaving the evangelical system is like grief for many former evangelicals. Indeed, when you walk away from evangelicalism you do grieve as you comprehend how much of your life was stolen and wasted. Its a hard process and its akin to mourning a death. But grieving the loss of evangelical faith is a process everyone must do on their own. Continue reading

#LettersToMe The Genetically Modified Skeptic Writes Letters to His Former Christian Self, and How I Did Something Similar in 2019

Drew McCoy who has the Genetically Modified Skeptic wrote a letter to his earlier Christian self. And encouraged others to do so as well. Back in 2019 I wrote an open letter to myself to warn myself about the problems of religion and fundamentalism. Such letters open the door to incredible journeys of finding yourself and what you are.  Continue reading

Pastors if You Want to Keep People in the Christian Faith, This is What I Would Do…

In light of Jon Steingard’s de-conversion from Christianity this blog wanted to do a post that would offer advice to pastors. How would you engage a doubter? What advice would you give and how would you respond to a doubter in your congregation or someone who shows up in your front door? There are a number of perspectives that this blog believes could be a road map for navigating the issue of doubt. Yet this blog is also realistic in knowing that its highly unlikely much of evangelicalism will be able to respond in this way. In the end many doubters will end up falling away from the evangelical church. Continue reading

Hemant Mehta’s Ten Reasons Why People are Abandoning Christianity

Hemant Mehta published a video explaining why people are walking away from Christianity. Its a list of ten items that should come as no surprise. Many of these help explain why people have pushed back and walked away from faith. The one that should be on the list that is not is that Christianity does not provide a satisfactory answer to the problem of evil.  Continue reading

When Religion is so Suffocating and Controlling that the Healthy Option is to Leave

Religion is often described as an affirming belief system that helps people in their life. The question must be asked, what do you do when it is controlling, destructive and harmful? Some of this I learned in a faith crisis years ago. But what do you do when religion harms and leaves hubris? For your mental and physical health you leave and walk away.   Continue reading