Unless You Experience Spiritual Abuse Then You Won’t Understand How Painful it is

Spiritual abuse is not something you will understand unless you have endured it. My hope is that you can dismiss this post. But those of you who have been through hell will understand what I am writing here today. This is about how spiritual abuse touched my life. From several churches that dealt with issues from child sex abuse to mishandling a sex offender; to an Air Force Officer who tried to get me involved in the last church plant of Sovereign Grace Ministries in the Washington, D.C. area called Redeemer Arlington. Its the story of a false accusation that threatened my life and hurt my family and even popped up in a hospital room in a medical crisis. In my view spiritual abuse is the equivalent of rape.  Continue reading

Fairfax Community Church in the Washington, D.C. Area Follows a Business Model, The Transition of Andy Gingrich Confirms It, Plus a Question to Andy About Eric Nickle

Fairfax Community Church, a mega church in the Washington, D.C. area I would contend follows a business model. This is why the church is deeply troubled and has issues. The fact that Andy Gingrich who worked at Fairfax for 9 years transitioned from one business model to another shows how evangelicalism is a business. But in light of the fact that Andy also coaches people and talks about leadership did Andy Gingrich do the right thing during his tenure and raise the issue  of the church employing Eric Nickle,  a violent sex offender, with Senior Pastor Rod Stafford? Or did he just go along with take orders and stay silent for years?
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“They Don’t Care About You!” A Woman Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts and in a Crisis Allegedly Couldn’t Get Help by Fairfax Community Church

Recently this blog had a conversation with a former member of Fairfax Community Church. She was suicidal and allegedly reached out for help and Rod Stafford’s church ignored her. She went elsewhere for assistance and left disappointed by the direction Fairfax Community Church has gone. In addition to looking at the care ministries at this church we must also remember the Faustian bargain that Rod Stafford, Kathleen Otchy and others took to support the evangelical industrial complex – often at the cost and value of people’s lives and identity.  Continue reading

When Evangelical Christians are Silent on Corruption Because They Believe God is Honored; and Why the Church Should Intervene and When Atheists are Validated

Tackling the issue of when Christians are silent on corruption. What happens when Christians choose to look away and not do the right thing. Why the world sees through their behavior. I write about this after watching the shifting polity at McLean Bible here in the Washington, D.C. area. When people are silent on abuse or unethical situations then in time they became enablers. Its hard to speak up yes, I did it both with Redeemer Arlington and Fairfax Community Church. But one must speak up in the end.  Continue reading