Dealing With the Searing Pain of Unresolved Spiritual Abuse and the EFCA’s Dr. Cedrick Brown’s Encouraging Proposal on the Church Asking For Forgiveness From the World

This blog post is a response to the EFCA’s Eastern District co-superintendent Dr. Cedrick Brown who asked the question should the church ask the world to forgive them? This blog is impressed with the question and offers some feedback which comes from a person who learned why spiritual abuse is a problem. Its my hope that this discussion with start to happen more often.  Continue reading

Carolyn McCulley Boasts of How Redeemer Arlington is Doing Church in the COVID-19 Era, While Neglecting My Spiritual Abuse Mess From Redeemer

On Twitter Carolyn McCully boasts of how Redeemer Arlington is doing church during the COVID-19 era. Her boasts are problematic in light of the unresolved spiritual abuse situation that has adversely affected my family.  Either Carolyn is exhibiting cognitive dissonance or she doesn’t know her Bible. If so I can teach her a thing or two.  Continue reading

An Open Letter to Jason Dees (Senior Pastor at Christ Covenant Church Regarding Jordan Kauflin and Spiritual Abuse From Redeemer Arlington)

Thus is an open letter to Jason Dees of Christ Covenant. This open letter explains why Jordan Kauflin should not be hired by Christ Covenant. This is the story of how I learned why rape and sexual assault is an issue in the military. It was triggered through a false accusation by someone Jordan Kauflin discipled at Redeemer Church of Arlington. The unresolved abuse later popped up in my Mom’s terminal illness. Jordan Kauflin should not be leading worship or in a position of authority. He is not above reproach and this abuse situation has hung over Redeemer Arlington for the last few years. .  Continue reading

David Deeter an Elder From Christ Covenant Helps Illustrate Why Evangelical Christianity is Abusive and Corrupt

At Christ Covenant Elder David Deeter explains how God is at work in this Neo-Calvinist church. This post looks at what the elder said and compared it with the hiring of Jordan Kauflin. The question that needs to be asked is did Jordan Kauflin share this abuse situation from Redeemer Arlington with the staff of Christ Covenant when he was being hired? This could reveal quite a bit about his character.  Continue reading

A Fifth Open Letter to Jordan Kauflin (Why are you Acting Like C.J. Mahaney and Running From this Spiritual Abuse Situation?)

An open letter to Bob Kauflin’s son Jordan Kauflin on his leaving Redeemer Arlington and moving to Atlanta to become involved in Christ Covenant Church. Why do evangelicals run and leave unresolved conflict in their wake? Why is Jordan Kauflin acting like C.J. Mahaney and fleeing from what he has contributed and enabled when it comes to spiritual abuse? Continue reading

How My Spiritual Abuse Situation From Redeemer Church of Arlington Illustrates the Systemic Flaws of 9 Marks

9 Marks is a system in the Neo-Calvinist world that encourages the practice of church discipline. From my understanding the network is designed to pass off members to each other and even invoke discipline if necessary. 9 Marks churches transfer membership to other 9 Marks churches. In addition to this being cult like my mess with Redeemer Arlington stress tested the system and revealed as to why its not sustainable or healthy.  Continue reading

Why Wade Mullen Found Peace and Why I Never Will

At Restore Chicago Wade Mullen gave a good talk about spiritual abuse. Wade even shared an abuse situation he walked away from and how a church responded to him and admitted he was correct. In the process they invited him back and spoke to the issue and reversed the abuse that happened. Wade’s case is an exception to the rule and is not the norm. I listened to Wade’s talk again this weekend and draw some comparisons with my own spiritual abuse mess from someone who was in a leadership role of a former Sovereign Grace Ministry church called Redeemer Arlington in the Washington, D.C. area. While Wade found peace, I will not nor will many other people who saw spiritual abuse. Continue reading

The Stress of Being a Whistle Blower in a Washington, D.C. Mega Church. Plus How Did Fairfax Community Church Bully a TV Station Not to Report a Scandal? Was Loretta Rogers Cooper Responsible for that Action?

This is the story of how I became a whistle blower at Fairfax Community Church. Back in 2014 while involved I stumbled across information that Rod Stafford’s church concealed a dangerous situation from the congregation. Their Care Director at the time – Eric Nickle – was on the Virginia Sex Offender Registry. This post is about how I went public, how I struggled with it, and how coming from a church in Milwaukee – Elmbrook, which had a sexual abuse situation with their youth pastor committing suicide in 1999  compelled me to tip off the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests. My conscious is clear and if something happens at Fairfax Community it won’t be because I stayed silent. Continue reading