“Why is Sex Such a Huge Deal For You Guys?”

The other day I listened to a podcast and the question came up to an evangelical from a mainstream Protestant and former Catholic. The question is why is sex such a huge deal for you guys? The question drew me back to my false accusation mess. I observed how a member of Jordan Kauflin or Eric Simmons Redeemer Arlington was so focused on avoiding sexual sin, but other situations such as the false accusation I endured were not sinful. The hyper focus on sexual sin makes evangelicalism toxic as people end up downplaying other sin. I hope this post makes sense as I have been working on it for a day now.  Continue reading

Learning to Hate Yourself. A Reflection on the Forever War Against Lust and Pornography Among Men in Evangelical Culture and the Destroyed Lives Left Behind

The New York Times has been writing about the profile of the Atlanta shooter and his “sexual addiction” battles against pornography and lust. Anyone who spent time in evangelicalism will identify with his purity battles that he dealt with.  In the “forever war” against pornography the battle with lust is long, exhausting and soul crushing.  Males inside evangelicalism realize that they often can’t win. And they are also caught in the dilemma of wanting to date but fearing of becoming sexually active while they do. Accountability is often a means of control and a weapon used by people in ministry. The culture against porn often uses fear and warns that if you look at pornography you too will become just like Ted Bundy and a serial killer hunting women down out of compulsion. Its known as the “forever war” and in evangelicalism it leads to PTSD, anxiety and other issues. Continue reading

Clint Clifton on the Church Planting Podcast Asks Jordan Kauflin What to Look For in a Worship Leader? Here’s a Hint How About One Who Does Not Enable or Tolerate Abuse?

On the Church Planting Podcast Clint Clifton had Jordan Kauflin on to discuss what should be looked for in a worship leader. The podcast had issues as it also showed how corrupt Jordan Kauflin had become in touting Sovereign Grace Ministries music. And this is on top of my spiritual abuse mess that will never be resolved. This troubled podcast also revealed another development. That is how much of a brownnoser Clint Clifton of the New City Network has become.  Continue reading

When Your Faith is a Lie, and You Were Conned. Another Component of Moore’s Leaving the Southern Baptists

There is a part of Beth Moore’s story that hit home with me. It deals with how Moore felt like her head was spinning when many Southern Baptists who criticized Bill Clinton then  both defended and embraced Donald Trump as his affairs and abuse came forward. For me the painful aspect of being thrust in such a crisis is when you realize that faith is a lie. And that is because of what occurs when those who taught you what faith is throw it all away to support someone of questionable character. Continue reading

#WonderingEagleEffect Introducing The Wondering Eagle Effect. How Has This Blog Influenced Policy?

This is a post that I have been avoiding for a while. After discussing this with others I have decided to write a post about how this blog has been effective. From the EFCA, to churches in the Washington, D.C. area and in the greater United States this is a look at how has this blog influenced churches and people. This blog is introducing a new description. Its called the #WonderingEagleEffect Continue reading

Dealing With the Searing Pain of Unresolved Spiritual Abuse and the EFCA’s Dr. Cedrick Brown’s Encouraging Proposal on the Church Asking For Forgiveness From the World

This blog post is a response to the EFCA’s Eastern District co-superintendent Dr. Cedrick Brown who asked the question should the church ask the world to forgive them? This blog is impressed with the question and offers some feedback which comes from a person who learned why spiritual abuse is a problem. Its my hope that this discussion with start to happen more often.  Continue reading

Carolyn McCulley Boasts of How Redeemer Arlington is Doing Church in the COVID-19 Era, While Neglecting My Spiritual Abuse Mess From Redeemer

On Twitter Carolyn McCully boasts of how Redeemer Arlington is doing church during the COVID-19 era. Her boasts are problematic in light of the unresolved spiritual abuse situation that has adversely affected my family.  Either Carolyn is exhibiting cognitive dissonance or she doesn’t know her Bible. If so I can teach her a thing or two.  Continue reading

An Open Letter to Jason Dees (Senior Pastor at Christ Covenant Church Regarding Jordan Kauflin and Spiritual Abuse From Redeemer Arlington)

Thus is an open letter to Jason Dees of Christ Covenant. This open letter explains why Jordan Kauflin should not be hired by Christ Covenant. This is the story of how I learned why rape and sexual assault is an issue in the military. It was triggered through a false accusation by someone Jordan Kauflin discipled at Redeemer Church of Arlington. The unresolved abuse later popped up in my Mom’s terminal illness. Jordan Kauflin should not be leading worship or in a position of authority. He is not above reproach and this abuse situation has hung over Redeemer Arlington for the last few years. .  Continue reading

David Deeter an Elder From Christ Covenant Helps Illustrate Why Evangelical Christianity is Abusive and Corrupt

At Christ Covenant Elder David Deeter explains how God is at work in this Neo-Calvinist church. This post looks at what the elder said and compared it with the hiring of Jordan Kauflin. The question that needs to be asked is did Jordan Kauflin share this abuse situation from Redeemer Arlington with the staff of Christ Covenant when he was being hired? This could reveal quite a bit about his character.  Continue reading