Why Wade Mullen Found Peace and Why I Never Will

At Restore Chicago Wade Mullen gave a good talk about spiritual abuse. Wade even shared an abuse situation he walked away from and how a church responded to him and admitted he was correct. In the process they invited him back and spoke to the issue and reversed the abuse that happened. Wade’s case is an exception to the rule and is not the norm. I listened to Wade’s talk again this weekend and draw some comparisons with my own spiritual abuse mess from someone who was in a leadership role of a former Sovereign Grace Ministry church called Redeemer Arlington in the Washington, D.C. area. While Wade found peace, I will not nor will many other people who saw spiritual abuse. Continue reading

The Stress of Being a Whistle Blower in a Washington, D.C. Mega Church. Plus How Did Fairfax Community Church Bully a TV Station Not to Report a Scandal? Was Loretta Rogers Cooper Responsible for that Action?

This is the story of how I became a whistle blower at Fairfax Community Church. Back in 2014 while involved I stumbled across information that Rod Stafford’s church concealed a dangerous situation from the congregation. Their Care Director at the time – Eric Nickle – was on the Virginia Sex Offender Registry. This post is about how I went public, how I struggled with it, and how coming from a church in Milwaukee – Elmbrook, which had a sexual abuse situation with their youth pastor committing suicide in 1999  compelled me to tip off the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests. My conscious is clear and if something happens at Fairfax Community it won’t be because I stayed silent. Continue reading

Go Fund Me Established for Jordan and Tali Kauflin as their Son Deals with Leukemia

A Go Fund Me was set up for Jordan and Tali Kauflin as they deal with the expenses with Jack Kaulfin’s chemotherapy treatment. The Kauflin’s son relapsed with his leukemia. This blog is going to donate a small amount and asking others to give as well. Why? This blog doesn’t want conflict to pop up in the hospital room, like it did in my Mom’s terminal illness.  Continue reading

A Fourth Open Letter to Jordan Kauflin (On Redeemer Arlington Using Mark Driscoll)

This is an open letter to Jordan Kauflin at Redeemer Arlington. This letter is about Redeemer once using Mark Driscoll in their church. Driscoll, despite the red flags and concerns, was deeply popular with the Neo-Calvinist movement. And that included churches like Redeemer Arlington. This post asks why did Jordan Kauflin and Eric Simmons use Driscoll? Was it worth it especially in light of how he turned out? You don’t need to be a rocket scientist to understand that he was a corrupt and misguided individual who should not be in a position of authority and teaching. What does it say about doctrine when people like Redeemer use questionable individuals?  Continue reading

Mark Driscoll on When Your Pastor is Attacked, Plus he Also Rejects 5-Point Calvinism. Personal Reflection on the Controversial Seattle Pastor in the Context of a Past Situation with Redeemer Arlington

Mark Driscoll is in the news again. In June he released a video about when you pastor is attacked and how its of saten. Then in an interview he explained that 5 point Calvinism is garbage. This post closes out reflecting on controversy with Mark Driscoll especially as how he was used at Redeemer Arlington. Continue reading

#Youngerself. What Advice Would I Give Myself at 25?

Recently on Twitter there was a hastag of what you could tell yourself at the age of 25. Many people posted a lot of ideas they wish they could advise their younger self. This is my open letter to my younger self. This is coming from someone  in their 40’s. The basic theme of the letter? Dave, stay away from Evangelical Christianity. If you stay away you will spare yourself a lot of pain and trauma. This is what l would say to myself if l could. Continue reading

What are the Take Aways From the Newest Scandal at Matt Chandler’s The Village Church Involving the Allegation of Matt Tonne’s Sexual Abuse of a Minor?

This post looks at the take aways of the issues from the latest scandal at Matt Chandler’s The Village Church. Matt Chandler’s The Village is alleged to have mishandled a child sex abuse situation with a pastor on staff who is accused of sexually preying on a minor. There are many lessons to consider from the scandal. That includes the issues of child sex abuse in the Southern Baptist Convention, to problems with church discipline and membership covenants.  Other questions raised include the culture of Acts 29 at ground zero thus spreading through the network to the problems with the celebrity pastor model and how the brand is to be protected is is more important than the safety of a child. Continue reading