A Fifth Open Letter to Jordan Kauflin (Why are you Acting Like C.J. Mahaney and Running From this Spiritual Abuse Situation?)

An open letter to Bob Kauflin’s son Jordan Kauflin on his leaving Redeemer Arlington and moving to Atlanta to become involved in Christ Covenant Church. Why do evangelicals run and leave unresolved conflict in their wake? Why is Jordan Kauflin acting like C.J. Mahaney and fleeing from what he has contributed and enabled when it comes to spiritual abuse?

“Conflict is drama, and how people deal with conflict shows you the kind of people they are.” 

Stephen Moyer

Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others has fulfilled the law.

Romans 13:8 NIV

C.J. Mahaney

***In light of the theme of today’s open letter to Jordan Kauflin I would encourage people to read a post I did two years ago asking if Neo-Calvinists are modern Jonahs. You can read that in, “From Mark Driscoll’s Mars Hill, to C.J. Mahaney’s Sovereign Grace to Jordan Kauflin’s Redeemer Arlington and an Air Force Captain I Knew, A Question that Must be Posed. Are Neo-Calvinists Modern Day Jonah’s in that All They Do is Flee?***



This is the fifth open letter I am writing to you.  A couple of days back I learned that you left Redeemer Arlington and moved to Atlanta, Georgia. You are going on staff at Christ Covenant Church. I want to ask you why the abusive situation involving me and someone who was on leadership at Redeemer was allowed to drag on. Not only at one point did I learn why rape and sexual assault is a problem in the military from a false accusation. Why did the abuse situation pop up in my Mom’s hospital room in a terminal illness? Why and how have you been able to sleep at times knowing how this impacted my family? Should spiritual abuse affect someone shortly before death? Is that “the Gospel” for you?  My Mom is deceased and while there is nothing that can be done as its too late, your enabling and looking the other way festered the abuse and allowed it to drag on. Jordan your attempt to address the situation was flawed  and contributed to the problem. Any sign of humility from you as a result? No… but even when your sons’ leukemia returned I even extended an olive branch and that was spurned. After what I saw in the hospital in dealing with my parents illness I even chipped in a few bucks.  And yet your response was to spurn a good faith effort. 

Jordan you are acting like C.J. Mahaney in many ways. You are duplicating the mistakes that your father Bob Kauflin and his peers have made. Like father, like son. This blog is writing about similar issues as SGM Survivors did for another generation. Do you still think you are SGM Royalty? And that nepotism protects and allows people like yourself  to do what they want? If so that is very disappointing. You don’t know me and you never took the time to try. You don’t realize how at one point I was willing to work with you and Redeemer to solve this mess. Instead you showed me how spiritual abuse is enabled and reinforced. And you just carried on and left the damage at your doorstep. Much of what you taught, said, preached and more amounts to BS. Actions speak louder than words. And while I would never wish malice on any one I do believe that you have no business being a pastor. Actually let me rephrase that for the Kauflin family.  Religion is a business as  you are no different than a person that opens up a franchise. For you religion is about making a buck. 

What is really a tragedy is that you are duplicating the mistakes of people like C.J. Mahaney, Mark Driscoll, James MacDonald and others. You just run and pop up in another part of the country. Do you think you can just run with unresolved conflict? Why are evangelicals so cheep in substance? Why do they flee and run? The good thing about the internet is that people in Atlanta will find these posts. Just as I have kept some people away from Redeemer Arlington here in the D.C. area my goal is to keep people away from Christ Covenant Church in Atlanta. No one else is going to go through this Jordan. You really do not know my drive and passion to make sure that what your church badly mishandled will not happen to another person. There is a lot of work to be done on my side and I plan to continue this long term. This have been nearly six years now and it continues. No one else is going to go through a similar situation Jordan. 

Very Respectfully, 

David Bonner 


2 thoughts on “A Fifth Open Letter to Jordan Kauflin (Why are you Acting Like C.J. Mahaney and Running From this Spiritual Abuse Situation?)

  1. Just wanted to say I have been reading many of your blog posts with much interest in the last year or so and while I don’t always agree with you on everything, I have to say that this open letter to Jordan Kauflin was right on. As an SGM survivor myself (CJ Mahaney was my very first pastor when I became born-again at age 20 and lived in Washington, DC at the time; I also worked for PDI under Larry Tomczak for almost 5 years; and then moved to California and was under Che Ahn who was pastor of another PDI Church), I have to agree with you that they commit spiritual abuse in one church and then leave. Only to pop up in some other part of the country (in Che Ahn’s case, it was another part of the city) and do the same exact, if not, worse damage. Thank you for being the voice for so many of us who are voiceless. I did write a book about the spiritual abuse that happened to me and debated on writing another one (using their real names this time and sharing more explicit details) but decided against it. I just didn’t have the stamina to keep fighting and wondered if it would even be worth it. So again, thank YOU for taking the time to write your blog posts. There are many Christians like me who do read it and are encouraged by it so keep doing what I believe you were called to do, brother. Let what was hidden in the dark be brought to the light and let the truth be shouted out from the rooftops! God bless and stay safe during this pandemic season.


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