Recommended Read in the London Guardian About how Therapy Doesn’t Always Ease Grief From Death

The London Guardian had an article about the challenges of grief and how it varies for each person. The article also explains how some people struggle to adjust to grief counseling. I wanted to add this sobering article to this blog. 

“When someone you love dies, and you’re not expecting it, you don’t lose her all at once; you lose her in pieces over a long time — the way the mail stops coming, and her scent fades from the pillows and even from the clothes in her closet and drawers. Gradually, you accumulate the parts of her that are gone. Just when the day comes — when there’s a particular missing part that overwhelms you with the feeling that she’s gone, forever — there comes another day, and another specifically missing part.”

John Irving

From my Mom’s funeral

Grief and loss from death is most challenging. In 2017 and 2018 I lost my Mom and Dad in two medical crisis that were painful to watch. I am numb to the issue of death and use this blog as a means to handle my emotions when it comes to grief. In the London Guardian today there was an interesting article that looked at the issue of grief and how it is unique and different for each person. The newspaper story tells of a psychotherapist who lost her husband who years later is still impacted. It also looks at a man who lost his daughter some forty years prior and how he dealt with the loss. This article helps me to understand that in my painful journey it will be unique and my own and unlike others. It will have ups and downs and the reality is that I will be dealing with this years down the road as well. You can read the article in, “I’m a psychotherapist, but therapy didn’t ease my grief.”