A number of celebrity evangelical leaders have said some disturbing things about sex from their platforms. Mark Driscoll taught that women are penis homes and preached about the Biblical basis for blow jobs. C.J. Mahaney boasted of demanding sex from his pregnant wife who was vomiting. Now according to Politico comes Jerry Falwell Jr who boasts about the size of his penis and how his wife Becki can’t handle it. Why all the crude talk? Are we dealing with sociopaths in the end who just want to control people?
“Sociopaths do not care about other people, and so do not miss them when they are alienated or gone, except as one might regret the absence of a useful appliance that one has somehow lost“
Song of Songs 2:3 NIV
Does this Bud Light commercial describe ministries such as Sovereign Grace and the late Mars Hill?
Jerry Falwell Jr said something about sex that was reported in a Politico article that grabbed my attention. It actually follows a pattern of behavior that other high profile evangelical leaders have done. If you need to get caught up on the Liberty situation you can read the following for a breakdown of the situation. “An Explosive Politico Article Raises Questions About Financial and Other Misconduct at Liberty University. In Response Jerry Falwell Jr Attacks and Claims There is a Coup Against Him.” Before we get into Falwell let’s review the distorted mind of Mark Driscoll.
Mark Driscoll on the Biblical Basis for Blow Jobs and Women Being Penis Homes
Mark Driscoll was the deeply controversial pastor in Seattle who founded and led Mars Hill. His church, which was Neo-Calvinist, was known for control and power. Within Seattle it spread to other states from California and New Mexico and was known by many to be a cult. One of the constant debates in Seattle was whether or not Mars Hill was a cult. But it was also known for the hyper masculine attitudes of Mark Driscoll. Driscoll wanted to Jesus who was hyper masculine and into mixed martial arts. Jesus, according to Driscoll needed to be able to beat the shit out of you. But there was another thing that Mark Driscoll was known for, and that is his crude sex talk.
In 2007 Mark Driscoll traveled over to Edinburgh, Scotland and preached inside Destiny Church. On November 18 he gave a very graphic sex talk to the congregation. In it he called the story of how a person came to faith in Jesus through a blow job her wife performed on him. She was unsure of performing oral sex and when she asked Mark Driscoll she was told to repent and service her husband. Driscoll preached a very graphic talk about the Song of Solomon. You can listen to that sermon in, “Reflecting on a Controversial Mark Driscoll Sermon About how a Repentant Woman Gets on Her Knees and Performs Oral Sex.” Mark Driscoll always said raunchy things at Mars Hill. But in 2014 another scandal erupted. Mark Driscoll taught that women were penis homes on an internal Mars Hill bulletin board. Driscoll taught that women were to be a home for “God’s penis.” This is how Mark Driscoll wrote about it.
“The first thing to know about your penis is, that despite the way it may see, it is not your penis,” Driscoll allegedly wrote. “Ultimately, God created you and it is his penis. You are simply borrowing it for a while. “While His penis is on loan you must admit that it is sort of just hanging out there very lonely as if it needed a home, sort of like a man wondering (sic) the streets looking for a house to live in,” Driscoll’s post continued. “Knowing that His penis would need a home, God created a woman to be your wife and when you marry her and look down you will notice that your wife is shaped differently than you and makes a very nice home.” This got the attention of the press, you can read about it in more detail in this New York Daily News article.
C.J. Mahaney Boasting of Demanding Sex From his Pregnant Wife Who was Ill
C.J. Mahaney led Sovereign Grace Ministries which was based out of Gaithersburg, Maryland. Mahaney led an evangelical empire that came crashing down due to sexual abuse issues and allegations of criminal activity. You can read more about it in this Washingtonian article. In 2004 through Crossway Mahaney published, “Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God (With a word to wives from Carolyn Mahaney): What Every Christian Husband Needs to Know.” This book was held in high esteem in the Neo-Calvinist evangelical camp. Over at the blog SGM Survivors and what some people also told me is that Mahaney spoke some shocking things about sex. For example in one presentation he talked about how he was driving with his wife Carolyn, and that he would get horny and would pull into the first motel or hotel they would come across just so they could have sex. In another talk Mahaney boasted of his prowess. He then spoke about his wife Carolyn being pregnant and vomiting due to morning sickness. While she was sick and nauseous Mahaney boasted about demanding and getting sex from her in that state. For me that is truly disturbing when you stop and think about it.
Jerry Falwell Jr.
Jerry Falwell Jr Boasting About the Size of his Penis and how Becki Can’t Handle it
Now the latest deals with Jerry Falwell Jr and comes from Politico. You can read the Politico article here. At Liberty Jerry Falwell Jr boasted of his sex life. Politico heard this from multiple individuals. In a car ride about a decade ago Falwell boasted about his penis size. All he wanted to talk about was his sex life with his wife Becki. Falwell boasted that his penis was so big that his wife couldn’t handle it. Talking coarsely about sex was a regular part of his behavior it appears. But with this information Jerry Falwell Jr joins other evangelical celebrities who boast about sex.
Are we Dealing with Sociopaths Who Love to Control People?
The question that is on my mind is why do these evangelical leaders act in this perverse way? They pursue the spotlight and the platform and they seem to use it in a warped way. But this almost seems as if some of these people have an arrested development. Jerry Falwell Jr, Mark Driscoll and C.J. Mahaney and others like him seem remain stuck in junior high. They can’t get beyond on that in how they think and talk. Another possibility that I am asking is if people like Falwell are sociopaths. In 2005 Harvard psychologist Martha Stout published a book that created a lot of attention. Called, “The Sociopath Next Door” the book looked at sociopaths in American society. According to Stout one in 25 people is a sociopath. And a sociopath is someone who lacks a conscious and has no moral compass. They have charisma and boast about themselves and seek the spotlight. When many people think of s sociopath they think of a serial killer. Yet there are a lot of people who have a sociopaths condition who get into positions of influence. This blog would like to raise the question, are individuals like Jerry Falwell Jr, C.J. Mahaney and Mark Driscoll sociopaths? Is that why they behave the way they do? They have no conscious and no concept of guilt? All they want to do is control people and is that an extension of a possible sociopathic condition? This blog would like to get some feed back form the Liberty community about this perspective.