Recommended Read in the Washington Post: The Implosion of Josh Harris’ “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.”

Josh Harris recently released a statement on how his thinking on dating, marriage and more has changed. Afterward the Washington Post had a great article that looked at the failings of the “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” movement.

“A 21-year-old kid came up with a really stupid philosophy about human relationships, and everyone took it seriously?”

Comment from the Washington Post article

“I was raised in a fanatically religious family. When you are raised to believe certain things, it is extremely difficult to overcome the ingrained data even after you have found out that that it is wholly illogical. I still struggle with sexuality in certain situations due to the ingrained shame and fear instilled in my childhood, adolescence, and as a young adult.  After twenty years as an adult, knowing that data is completely wrong. It still affects me.”

Comment in the Washington Post article  

 For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder

Mark 7:21 NIV

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When I was in Campus Crusade in Marquette University in 2000 I recall one conversation amongst another Crusade individual. They were talking about how honoring to God Josh Harris’ “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” is. That was the first time I heard of the book. At the time I was 25 and drinking the evangelical Christian Kool-Aid. There was such an obsession with purity, dating guidelines and more when I think back on it I realize how toxic much of it was. I wrote about the issues with evangelical accountability in, “Does Evangelical Culture Contribute to Pornography? Plus the Torment Accountability has Left in My Life.”

There has been a lot of movement and discussion with the movement Josh Harris led over the years. On Josh Harris’s website he released a statement on how he has changed his thinking on dating, sexuality and relationships. You can read that statement here. The other day in the Washington Post they had an excellent article that looked at the implosion of “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” The article explored what happens when formula’s fail. Evangelical Christians love formulas. Want to have a good marriage go to this conference, read your Bible and do this and that. What to raise a kid a certain way do all this and that and all will be fine. It works well until the formula fails as they often do. I would encourage you to read this article in the Post. Its called “The dramatic implosion of ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’ is a lesson — and a warning.”

 

4 thoughts on “Recommended Read in the Washington Post: The Implosion of Josh Harris’ “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.”

  1. I was two years older than you, then. Fortunately I got married before this got popular, so I missed it all. But I know what they mean about ingrained views on morality being hard to shake even when you get out of the fundamentalist “bubble.”

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  2. There was such an obsession with purity, dating guidelines and more when I think back on it I realize how toxic much of it was.

    “Evil seems to be the side most obsessed with Purity.”
    — Comment at Internet Monk a few months ago

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  3. This all makes me think of the Duggars & their courting guidelines. I’m not a hater of the Duggars & I think it’s goid for parents to give good supervision & direction to adolescents beginning to explore romantic relationships.

    They are way over the top in Many ways though. I’ve read that unmarried driving age & young adult Duggars can’t go anywhere without a sibling; like an 18 yr old can’t go to the library or out shopping by themselves?

    Also chaperones for grown adults on dates (i.e. John-David, age 28, had chaperones on dates with his new wife) even if they are engaged?

    Also all text messages, emails and Skype calls with the opposite sex are monitored by mom & dad. I’d reserve the right to monitor minor teens’ communications if cause for concern, but otherwise it’s just weird.

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